The traffic here is insane. Just when you think okay, some sort of pattern has emerged among the 3 million motorbikes, half a million cars, thousand’s of cyclos and bikes the guy in front of you will decide to turn around and drive against the traffic. Maybe he left his stove on or forgot to brush his teeth or maybe just decided to go back home…what ever the reason I am quite certain that this is not a good idea for him or for me. Neither is driving backwards on a busy street, stopping to take a phone call at an intersection or carrying a basket of live ducks on your lap while driving a motorbike with 3 other people, a large glass window and a color tv! But, it’s done daily and the majority survive to do it again the next day.
Now walking around and crossing the streets is far more exciting. The closest reference I can think of is Frogger (For those of you too old or too young to know about this classic arcade game give it a try- http://www.maniacworld.com/frogger-arcade-game.html ). Even the sidewalks are no break for the weary mom who carefully scoots her three kids across the roads… because, they are short cuts for the motorbikes and taxis.
Since we’ve been here I’ve sent up thousands of prayers to the ethers hoping some patron saint of traffic jams and broken legs will safely guide us across the streets… Things were going pretty good until New Years eve.
We decided to spend the holiday celebrating in Hoi An. An ancient city that celebrates the full moon each month by turning off the power, lighting the streets with lanterns and blocking the old city from traffic. How lucky, New Years eve is the full moon! This will be so great no stress about traffic! Yipee! what could be better…..
Dusk settled on the beautiful little town as we traverse the 4 short blocks to the “Old city”. Our guard was down. The town seemed quiet. We were so close. I could see the haze of soft light glowing on the lantern lit streets ahead. Philip and Arlo crossed over. I came across to look at a dress in the window. As I crossed I said to Silas and Zeb look before you step. Then I left……Ugggg.. just writing that makes my skin crawl. Why didn’t I wait for them? Why didn’t I hear the little voice saying stop turn around.
I heard a loud crack. I knew. I spun around. I screamed. I saw Zeb hit the ground. Oh my god I thought he must be dead. I ran into the street and picked him up. He looked through me no recollection of my face. It’s strange but in that split second I remember thinking okay he’s alive we can get through what ever else happens now. As I’m lifting him he jumps up like a frightened animal. His eyes are crazy. I hold him tight and sit him on the curb. I’m thinking there will be a lot of blood but, there isn’t.
I feel his body. Some cuts and a very large lump on his head about 2 inches long and half-inch wide. The women across the street run over. They want me to bring him to their shop. They get a wash cloth with ice. An elder woman pushes me aside grabs a bucket of salt chews it up and spits it into her hands. She begins to vigorously rub it into Zeb’s head… I hold Zeb’s face and let her do her work. This must cause Zeb a lot of pain to have her rubbing salt into his swollen wound but it seems to bring him back to us. His eyes are clear now, he is scared but talking. The other women go to work on his cuts and squeeze my shoulders offering support…They speak no English and we speak no Vietnamese yet we communicate clearly. Pain, fear and love are universal.. makes me wonder why wars happen…… The only words needed are ‘Cam On” and with that we take Zeb home.
We are all shaken. Back in the room a doctor comes in and checks him out. He gave him something for the pain and told us to watch for concussion. Arlo and Silas wanted badly to see the town on new years eve, so Philip reluctantly took them to meet my mom and enjoy the festival.
Zeb and I rocked in the new year alone in our hotel room his soft sobs of fear rolling off of my tears of relief. It was the worst and the best New Year’s I’ve ever had. I guess the prayers are working Zeb was beyond lucky. The doctor said motorbike traffic is very dangerous and that many people die. Philip and I witnessed a motorbike accident in Mui Ne that ended in at least one death…..
It took several days before Zeb’s fears and his headache and bruised body began to heal and it took a long call to Joan to keep me from getting on the next plane to the states. But, we are back home in Saigon safe and sound and looking both ways.
Cam On = Thank you
For more posts on the dangers of family travel abroad check out : http://familyonbikes.org/blog/?p=1815
We’ve had scary accidents with the boys before. Broken arms, ingesting rat poison, bike wrecks ect… but never have I felt so close to losing one of my children. My New Year’s Resolution is to love more and be angry less. Life is precious.
agreed…
and this comment reminds me of a tooth pushed up into a mouth!… hmm… so blessed!
beloved curry’s- i was weeping as i read from where zeb was hit and on. i am singing the protection mantra for you each day now in my practice. wow- niki- you are such an amazing writer! you could easily write a wonderful book. anyways, i love the blog, i love knowing where you are and what you are doing. and, i love you. sierra
Ohh my goodness I could hardly read on for tears,
and holding my breath.
I am sitting here with goosebumps, knowing that if this accident had turned out differently it would also have deeply impacted our family.
I am so relieved that Zeb is ok!
Please send him our loving thoughts.
Know that we love you all.
Love,
Rainbow
Oh Nikki! My family and I read this together- with me crying, too. We are so thankful that Zebulon is fine! We were all worried when we saw the title, though I knew he must be okay for you to be blogging about it. We all send our love…Tubby and Urijah say to say “Hi!” to your boys. Please let Zeb know his friends here are thinking about him. We love you all,
Cheryl
So nice to read such sweet comments from each of you. Zeb is happy to hear the love and support. Love you all and miss you much!
xoxo
Oh my goodness Nikki~ I’m Thanking the Lord within, above and below that your son is alright. One day I will have to share with you my similar story with Sage in Costa Rica. I know how it shakes you to the core and how much of your love for your children overcomes your being. So much love to you and yours~
Thanks for thinking of us Nicole. I would like to hear your story about Sage in COsta Rica sometime. Love and hugs to your family
my word. i just read this, and my heart is still in my gut. i cannot imagine what was in your head, let alone pumping through out your body. my heart beats for you. when zeb is ready, and you for that matter, but all children, you should look into rolfing, structural intergration, the body, and muscles “retain” memory. it will help the soul heal, but give it time.
Rolfing is indeed a great idea. Thank you!
What tension came over my body as I read your story, Nik————-but the very vision of you women communicating as women over a child was so beautiful (in spite of the language barrier) Please give him a large, tight and loving hug from us all —-we love you zeb—————Mam
OMG! What a scary situation… ugh! Soooo glad he is okay… and yes, again, you are a beautiful writer… I could so vividly see these women helping you and Zeb… if only communicating through common gestures and the fear in your eyes- yes, love does indeed bridge language barriers… and I, too, wonder how there can be war in this world…. 😦
xo!
t.
This post brought a lot of emotions forward. It is amazing how much we have grown away from simple human closeness and humanity in general.
What a journey for you and your family, both scary and moving at the same time.
Must be good to be on the other side of it, though.
i am still holding my breath even though i know zeb is ok. a mother’s love and the love in others is overwhelming. the more we live the more evident it becomes.
ps. i wish you would write a book. you would be on oprah’s book club list.
Snaps and Blabs I think your right in general we have grown away from simple humanity but, then something like this happens and I am filled with hope.
Katherine- Mother’s love for her children should some how be harnessed and used to power the planet!
wonder what it is like you said… how with this essence of humaness can we have war?
Oh honey as I sat here reading and knowing just how precious life is and so deeply grateful that Zeb is doing ok…….reading all that you have written you really are an amazing writer.
I do remember the game Frogger and that just makes something inside me quiver knowing you are comparing crossing like the frog in that video game. Please give Zebulon our love and support………I love you dearly
Many Blessings, Jeri
What a blessing that I had a wonderful cup of tea while reading the stories of school as I cried. Then reading of Zeb being hit, the dam broke and I sobbed. You are a wonderful writer and even though I had been told that Zeb had been hit but he was just fine, I turned it around in my mind that he had been bumped. If I had known the truth I may have flown over or insisted that they come back to the farm. My arms ache to hold them. I am still crying, time for more tea. Thank you so much for sending it to me. I will only drink it when I read the blog.